Some of us have, for the moment at least, sufficiently made our point. We can not abide a robotic faith where difficult questions or deep anxieties are met with silence, rebuke or prayer-circle interventions. We have been worn to the existential bone with the hypocrisy we believe others demand of us when we are expected to apply our happy face and chirp a few cliches, often set to peppy tunes. We will not play the game. We will be (as we repeatedly remind ourselves and others) authentic.
The difficulty is that, in our move toward being real (whatever that means), we’ve often merely traded one false self for another false self. In our previous world, we felt there was no space for our humanness, our individuality, our emotions and inner life. To whatever degree this was the reality hoisted upon us, we are right to resist. We are whole beings, and our whole self matters. In the new world where we’ve shed these shackles, however, we are often ruled by what we feel, by whether our prayers feel vibrant or our worship feels truthful. We sit immobilized when we hear the Psalmist’s invitation to “praise the Lord all [our] life.” Praise is not an emotion; it is a declaration.
There are many days when I don’t feel the electricity of love for Miska (or she for me), but I announce my love to her, live my love toward her, nonetheless. And I’m not being inauthentic. Quite the opposite, I’m demonstrating that my love runs far deeper than my whims or confusions. I have promised fidelity. This is the ground of truth. When I don’t feel love’s energy, I should pay attention in order to keep a check on the state of my heart toward her, but this poverty doesn’t define what is true. Some days, my feelings are simply going to have to figure out how to keep up.
Our feelings, all the complexities of our story and our interior selves, are affirmed in the Psalms, honored in the prayers of the prophets and apostles, and blessed in the Incarnation where Divinity became fully human. However, our feelings are not God. Only God is God. As Barth said, “Let us set aside our investigation of God. God searches us. Our mind is never right.” To give no heed to what we feel or think or the many ways we struggle and plod along is to dishonor the God who created us. However, to give ultimate authority to these realities is to bow at the feet of another god.
Feelings are important in judging the condition of our heart or how we are engaging God and others. However, they don’t always tell us the truth about ourselves, God or others. Attentiveness to our feelings is essential to tell us where our heart is, but they are not always trustworthy to tell us where God is. Only God can do that.
This is why we pray with the Church. This is why we surrender to the stories of our God’s actions across history and geography. This is why we break bread with friends and laugh and dance under the moon and become peacemakers and feast with the poor. This is why we hope for good and commit ourselves to joy and why we have plenty of space for our tears. We do all this because God has come to us in Jesus Christ, and Jesus has taught us that this life is the life God has for us. Whether we feel it or not.
8 Replies to “Not Feeling Faith”
Winn,this is profound,as usual. I like to think of you as a friend, and I greatly value the fact that I’ve been able to have communication with you. I don’t take it for granted that,out of all the dribble and debate on the Internet,I connected with someone who writes words that resonate so deeply in me. I’m so grateful that the heart of a pastor,father and husband comes out in your writing. You words have coached me as I became the two latter roles and,though I don’t believe I’ll ever be a pastor,you have even helped me as I live out my vocation in music ministry. If I have a tribe, you’re in it! You challenge me as much as you teach me. i am grateful for the gift of your words,even beyond just a feeling.
Thank you for including me in the tribe. That seems like it would be a warm circle.
I specifically visited the comment section for this post to see how many hundreds of people responded to this message. Seeing fewer than hundreds of comments, I can only believe everyone is still pondering the weight of your words. Good message this morning, buddy!
everyone’s just waiting for you, Sam. As always…
Oh, AMEN. And amen, again. Thank you for putting such clear, good words to these truths. Authenticity is needed, important and good. But real authenticity demands commitment, action, putting one foot in front of the other, regardless of the emotional tenor of any particular moment in time. It’s not enough to ‘let it all hang out.’ We’ve also got to walk it out, no matter what our feelings may be telling us. As in so many things in real life, it’s finding that balance between the two, hanging onto both sides of the equation without falling off the equal sign!
I fall off every now and then. I get tipsy that way…
thank you, Rebecca